A or lazy?

I have always said that me and Boy have the innate (perhaps God-given?) ability to be able to tolerate our own untidiness -- filth -- for a level that is highly socially unacceptable and just "not right". We're soul mates that way. That being said, I have someone coming over at 2 PM to help with the garden. Inevitably, she will want to come into the flat, to have a cuppa or wash her hands. Am I a) moving away from my uber-Type A ways to accept the laws of the universe (that one cannot control everything) and am maturing in accepting this, or b) just sheer lazy?